by Pastor Faith Oyedepo, Week 3, March, 2008

Dear Reader,

Calvary greetings to you in the name of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ! In my first teaching I explained to you how you can be committed to God. Last week, I did explain to you how you can be committed to your spouse by treating your spouse as yourself. This week, I want to focus on the Benefits Of Commitment.

It provokes love

Love is one of the benefits of commitment. Love is the instrument that God has put in the hand of the man to be committed to his marriage. A husband’s primary responsibility is that of loving his wife, and Commitment provokes love. Where there is commitment to God and to one’s spouse, love becomes automatic. Commitment is like a driving force, pushing the husband to love his wife. The Word of God says, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for It” (Ephesians 5:25).

When I see a man who finds it difficult to love his wife, I know that the problem is essentially that of lack of commitment to God and to his marriage. When there is commitment, there will be no need to persuade a man to love his wife; it will come naturally.

My husband, for instance, is highly committed to God and to the success of our home. Therefore, it is easy for him to ravish me with so much love, even without my asking for it. That is commitment!

Husbands, you need to hear this. There is no wife who hates to be loved. There is no woman that will not respond positively to love. Someone once said that submission is a response, because when you love your wife she responds by submitting. Therefore, tension and quarrelling in a home are indications of the absence of love.

It provokes submission

Just as commitment provokes love, it also triggers submission. Any woman who is truly committed to the success of her marriage will be submissive to her husband. When a woman is stubborn and naughty, it is a sign of lack of commitment to her home.

Many people wish and express their desire that their home be like ours, but as the saying goes, “If wishes were horses beggars will ride.” Nothing good happens by chance. If you do nothing, you get nothing. It is only what you make happen that happens. Commitment must be in place; else family success will be a mere dream.

Thank God for His grace, but we have been committed to playing our parts too. That is why today I can boldly declare that I am enjoying a good home! As you play your part also, God will give you a brighter testimony than ours! Wherever there is commitment in a marriage, there will be love and submission: both parties working together for the success of their home.

Personally, I don’t find it stressful to submit to my husband; it did not just start now, but right from the days of little beginnings. I never had to be coerced into doing so. I have always found it a thing of great joy.

Single ladies, before you get into a marriage relationship with any man, ensure that you can submit to him without duress. If you find it difficult to submit to him during courtship, then don’t marry him! This is because you will not submit to him in marriage, and that is signing in for trouble.

Incase you are reading this article today, and you are not born again, there is no way you can be committed to God. And without commitment to God, you cannot be committed to your spouse. You need to be committed to God first by surrendering your life to Christ. You surrender by confessing Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: Dear Lord, I come to you today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins. Cleanse me with your precious Blood. I accept you as my Lord and Savious. Now I know I am born again!

If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through:

E-mail: Tel. No: 234-1-7747546-8;

For more insight, these books authored by Pastor Faith Oyedepo are available at the Dominion Book Stores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian book stores.

? Marriage Covenant,

? Making Marriage Work

? Building a Successful Family

? Success in Marriage (Co-Authored with Bishop David Oyedepo).